Our stories about motherhood can vary widely.

Perhaps you’re a mother whose own mother was absent, or died young, or simply not the mother you needed her to be. And so when you became a mother yourself, you were scared and lost. How were you supposed to fulfill this monumental role when you had no example? How were you supposed to love like a mother when you weren’t loved yourself?

Or perhaps you experienced numerous miscarriages and are asking yourself, How do I know when to stop trying? You feel isolated from your partner and the world. You feel robbed of what appears to be effortless for so many. The quest to become a mother has consumed your life, which has become a perpetual cycle of hope and disappointment. And it’s absolutely draining. You want to be a mother - but at what cost?

Or perhaps you’re a mother of a thriving little toddler, who absolutely adores you. And you adore him, too, except that sometimes, you have this prickly sense that this life as a mother is not what you want. That maybe the life that eluded you, the one without a child, is the one you should’ve chosen, which leaves you feeling sad, guilty, and ashamed. How can I even think such things?

Our roads leading to and from motherhood can be filled with uncomfortable feelings, which can prevent us from being the mothers we want to be. Please know that you are not alone and that there is no one way to be - or feel about being - a mother.  I’d be honored to support you as you settle into the learning of yourself so that you may develop a deeper sense of self-awareness and self-compassion. Only by responding to our needs first can we respond effectively and lovingly to the needs of others, including our children.